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Monday the 9th and Wednesday the 11th support

Wednesday, August 4th, 2010
Dear Busters,
We’re on again Monday and Wednesday from 6:30 to 8:30 for the summer 2010 Busting Loose conversation continuation.
Topics will be – So, what are other people in my hologram? What
were those 7 Key Points? And review of the 4 tools of The
Process … or whatever would be most supportive to the gathered
minions in the moment.
Other people, as you may recall, serve three supportive purposes
in your hologram:
1.  They reflect back to you something you think or believe about
yourself.
2.  They provide you with information or data.
3.  They set something in motion
One or more, or all three of the above when you directly
interact with “another person” who is really just you in disguise.
All of the other persons in the hologram are just extras to make
the scene work, feel right, be believable.
Happy August!
Busters Tom and Pat

One-ness and your mind

Saturday, March 27th, 2010

One-ness and your mind

One-ness. The concept and quality of one-ness.

One way to approach the concept is through observing that YOU are ONE person with ONE mind and heart and ONE set of eyes, ears, arms and legs. And that you are part of your ONE blood family that has ONE genealogical lineage that spreads backwards in time. And that your lineage is part of ONE whole population of the planet with myriad lineages. And that you do live on just ONE planet, in your ONE solar system in your ONE galaxy in your ONE universe and in your One cosmos which some are saying really contains all of your parallel universes as well.

In a very real and observable sense, then, you are indeed ONE. It all just depends on where you are choosing to stand and what you are choosing to observe there. And no matter where you choose to stand and observe in any moment, you are also standing within all the other ONE-nesses at the same time … at all times. And that thought is the one that can most boggle one’s mind, isn’t it.

But then, whatever you are holding in your one mind, you are holding in your mind. After all, whose else’s mind is it? And even if you feel like arguing that it’s your mind that’s holding it for some spiteful and not understood reason, and not YOU … well, it’s still YOUR mind, isn’t it.

So it could be supportive to notice periodically what you are holding in your mind; what you are telling yourself about what you (think you) are observing. And it might be further supportive to notice that whatever you (or your mind) resists, actually causes that to persist. And the greater the resistance, the greater the persistence.

Another clever way to say that could be: it most likely supportive to notice which thoughts you are having … and which thoughts are having you.

Busting Loose: Passion, Inspiration And Gentle Nudges

Tuesday, October 20th, 2009

In Busting Loose, Robert talks about after reclaiming *enough* power, moving deeper into Phase 2, and then living in ‘reactive mode’ — acting only on inspiration.

Many, MANY years ago my Al-Anon sponsor said, “You know, Tom, I discovered in working the program that I’ve always wanted my Higher Power (Al-Anon speak for Expanded Self) to talk to me in burning bushes, but It/He/She always just seems use gentle nudges.” He went on to say that this was often a frustration because gentle nudges were too darned easy to ignore, pooh-pooh, or miss all together.

I notice that for some 50 years I’ve been practicing that very Phase 1 conversation. It goes something like, “I know this inspiration  s-e-e-m-s  interesting and exciting … but what if it’s just a passing fancy; what if it’s not really ‘the one;’ it surely doesn’t seem all that important or that would make any difference.” Discomfort. Do The Process!

So … many years later and close to three years of facilitating Busting Loose workshops – doing the process – reclaiming power, it feels like my inspiration illusion still is just out of arms reach in my Human Game illusion. But it also feels like the Phase 1 cloud cover on that one is getting close to being drilled through. Why do I think that?

Because I’m noticing I’m creating a lot of other players / conversations mirroring that back to me, remembering that that I script  other players in my hologram do three things: (1) reflect back to something I am thinking or feeling about myself, (2) provide information or data, and/or (3) set something in motion – thank you, Robert, for the insight and reminder.

And just this morning (it always happens in the morning), ES just popped this into my hologram via the internet, further languaging it very nicely in, “If you think you haven’t found your passion...” by Derek Sivers.

The Readers’ Digest version is, “It’s dangerous to think in terms of  ‘passion’ and ‘purpose’ because they sound like such huge overwhelming things. If you think you haven’t found your passion yet, you’re probably expecting it to be overwhelming. Instead, just notice what excites you and what scares you on a small moment-to-moment level.”

You can read the whole post and a bunch of great comments by clicking on this link. It feels like a real Busting Loose keeper. Your thoughts?

“Other People Are …”

Wednesday, August 5th, 2009

tomsausalito1You create other people/players to interact directly with to serve 3 purposes:

  • Reflect Something You Think Or Feel About Yourself – or reflect back to you progress or status in some area(s) of your Human Game experience.
  • Give You The Gift Of Information Or Insight – something you would blow off if it comes to you in the shower, but you could hear if it comes from  “someone/someplace outside of you.”
  • Set Something Into Motion To Support You – could be something you will “like” in which case you can sort of go to sleep and not make any connection (“It just came out of the blue”), or you can make the connection in Phase 1 terms (“Jeez. ‘They’ did this. I didn’t. I don’t deserve it; I didn’t work for it”), or it could be something you DON’T like. In the last two cases, you create “them” giving you a gift of discomfort so you can apply The Process and reclaim some power.

And “other people” are all actors in your 3D, full-immersion, holographic movie. You create them. You hand them their scripts. They do exactly what you ask them to do – and have it look like it’s coming from somewhere “outside” so you can believe you are limited or restricted.

Phase 1 “power outside” is cool. Phase 1 “power outside” looks like it’s real and works. It’s just that you can now know (I love how those two words go together: now know; know now) that you are doing it all – and it’s always just you talking to you in one of these three supportive ways.

Very cool!

NOW …

Friday, July 10th, 2009

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What is now?

Who’s now is it; to whom does it belong?

For whom is it being now, now?

Where does/did now come from?

Where does/did now go to?

Even better, what is the true nature of either “coming-ness” or “going-ness”?

Who is experiencing your now right now?

Who’s now are you experiencing or observing — right now?

And isn’t the answer always “I/me”?

And what meaning are you assigning to either your now or your I/me right now?

Acceptance, Reality and What Is

Monday, June 29th, 2009

In a review of “Mindful Motherhood: practical tools for staying sane during pregnancy and your child’s first year,” the following quotes appeared. I found them supportive.

“The bottom-line evaluation that underlies most of our unnecessary suffering is the thought ‘This shouldn’t be here.’ ”

“Acceptance is ending your argument with Reality, and accepting What Is.”

Slight modification for Busting Loose: “Acceptance of [diving into] the discomfort of/in/about the argument then telling the truth about “what shouldn’t be here is completely made up anyway,” increasingly leads to “inspiration” and a to Busting Loose.