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Cool notes from “Committed” by Elizabeth Gilbert

Saturday, September 11th, 2010

These are my notes from Elizabeth Gilbert’s new book, Committed.  Gilbert is the gal that wrote Eat, Pray, Love.

Click here to watch her 2009 TED talk – It’s a very cool talk – and here are my notes on Committed

Committed, Elizabeth Gilbert, 2010 (author of Eat, Pray, Love)
Highlights from my personal notes:

  • • We cannot choose everything simultaneously


  • • More than one of anything brings the automatic possibility of uncertainty and confusion


  • • Choice –» personal freedom –» emotional uncertainty, second guessing and regrets … use the Process and Appreciation tools


  • • Give yourself some time off to deal with your perplexities


  • • I will write this, do this, for a finite and limited number of receivers: my tribe


  • • If a fish and a bird fall in love, where will they sleep?


  • • Failing, becoming an expert in failure, can be a very good thing if:


  • •  It does not stop you, and


  • •  If you find or take something of value from it, e.g., what caused the failure, what were the factors


  • • “Failure” is an interesting opportunity for personal or professional growth


  • • There are any number of other players with whom  you can do whatever you wish in joy, adventure and fun


  • • All men and all women are mostly the same, most of the time


  • • “Plant an expectation; reap a disappointment.”  In other words, THIS IS IT! Stop lying about it …  to yourself or others.


  • • Anything becomes “hard work” and, ultimately, unrewarding, when the expectation that only an achieved result will bring any kind of enduring satisfaction or fulfillment or enlightenment.


  • • Family grows into clan grows into tribe (150±) grows into kingdom grows into dynasty grows into nation-state


  • • By unnerving definition, anything the heart (Expanded Self) has chosen for its own mysterious reason(s) it can always un-choose later – again, for its own mysterious reason(s)


  • • Have, engender, embody a humility, a respect for forces that are bigger than me/you/us – something even approaching awe (p.85) (Expanded Self?)


  • • It is supportive to learn and to know where you end and someone else begins


  • • Of “simpler times” and nostalgia: what time has ever been a “simple time” for those who were living it?


  • • Insight and reminder of how goofy my mind chatter can be … no … usually is; how it freezes, paralyzes me in story and analysis; how it resists, how unwilling it it is to give up anything in the face of, for the sake of change.


Monday the 9th and Wednesday the 11th support

Wednesday, August 4th, 2010
Dear Busters,
We’re on again Monday and Wednesday from 6:30 to 8:30 for the summer 2010 Busting Loose conversation continuation.
Topics will be – So, what are other people in my hologram? What
were those 7 Key Points? And review of the 4 tools of The
Process … or whatever would be most supportive to the gathered
minions in the moment.
Other people, as you may recall, serve three supportive purposes
in your hologram:
1.  They reflect back to you something you think or believe about
yourself.
2.  They provide you with information or data.
3.  They set something in motion
One or more, or all three of the above when you directly
interact with “another person” who is really just you in disguise.
All of the other persons in the hologram are just extras to make
the scene work, feel right, be believable.
Happy August!
Busters Tom and Pat

Busting Loose according to Twyla Tharpe in The Creative Habit

Tuesday, August 3rd, 2010

There’s a sentence on page 47 of Twyla Tharpe’s neat book, The Creative Habit, that I got as being very Busting Loose.

“Our ability to grow is directly proportional to an ability to entertain the uncomfortable.”

She just doesn’t describe The Process as a ‘what to do’ with the discomfort like Robert Scheinfeld does, but in reading her book, you really get the power of living reactively in a Phase 2 orientation.

One-ness and your mind

Saturday, March 27th, 2010

One-ness and your mind

One-ness. The concept and quality of one-ness.

One way to approach the concept is through observing that YOU are ONE person with ONE mind and heart and ONE set of eyes, ears, arms and legs. And that you are part of your ONE blood family that has ONE genealogical lineage that spreads backwards in time. And that your lineage is part of ONE whole population of the planet with myriad lineages. And that you do live on just ONE planet, in your ONE solar system in your ONE galaxy in your ONE universe and in your One cosmos which some are saying really contains all of your parallel universes as well.

In a very real and observable sense, then, you are indeed ONE. It all just depends on where you are choosing to stand and what you are choosing to observe there. And no matter where you choose to stand and observe in any moment, you are also standing within all the other ONE-nesses at the same time … at all times. And that thought is the one that can most boggle one’s mind, isn’t it.

But then, whatever you are holding in your one mind, you are holding in your mind. After all, whose else’s mind is it? And even if you feel like arguing that it’s your mind that’s holding it for some spiteful and not understood reason, and not YOU … well, it’s still YOUR mind, isn’t it.

So it could be supportive to notice periodically what you are holding in your mind; what you are telling yourself about what you (think you) are observing. And it might be further supportive to notice that whatever you (or your mind) resists, actually causes that to persist. And the greater the resistance, the greater the persistence.

Another clever way to say that could be: it most likely supportive to notice which thoughts you are having … and which thoughts are having you.

Busting Loose: Passion, Inspiration And Gentle Nudges

Tuesday, October 20th, 2009

In Busting Loose, Robert talks about after reclaiming *enough* power, moving deeper into Phase 2, and then living in ‘reactive mode’ — acting only on inspiration.

Many, MANY years ago my Al-Anon sponsor said, “You know, Tom, I discovered in working the program that I’ve always wanted my Higher Power (Al-Anon speak for Expanded Self) to talk to me in burning bushes, but It/He/She always just seems use gentle nudges.” He went on to say that this was often a frustration because gentle nudges were too darned easy to ignore, pooh-pooh, or miss all together.

I notice that for some 50 years I’ve been practicing that very Phase 1 conversation. It goes something like, “I know this inspiration  s-e-e-m-s  interesting and exciting … but what if it’s just a passing fancy; what if it’s not really ‘the one;’ it surely doesn’t seem all that important or that would make any difference.” Discomfort. Do The Process!

So … many years later and close to three years of facilitating Busting Loose workshops – doing the process – reclaiming power, it feels like my inspiration illusion still is just out of arms reach in my Human Game illusion. But it also feels like the Phase 1 cloud cover on that one is getting close to being drilled through. Why do I think that?

Because I’m noticing I’m creating a lot of other players / conversations mirroring that back to me, remembering that that I script  other players in my hologram do three things: (1) reflect back to something I am thinking or feeling about myself, (2) provide information or data, and/or (3) set something in motion – thank you, Robert, for the insight and reminder.

And just this morning (it always happens in the morning), ES just popped this into my hologram via the internet, further languaging it very nicely in, “If you think you haven’t found your passion...” by Derek Sivers.

The Readers’ Digest version is, “It’s dangerous to think in terms of  ‘passion’ and ‘purpose’ because they sound like such huge overwhelming things. If you think you haven’t found your passion yet, you’re probably expecting it to be overwhelming. Instead, just notice what excites you and what scares you on a small moment-to-moment level.”

You can read the whole post and a bunch of great comments by clicking on this link. It feels like a real Busting Loose keeper. Your thoughts?

Appreciation … or … Gratitude

Friday, September 11th, 2009

Busting Loose – Appreciation or Gratitude?

I’m not sure Robert mentions the distinction between appreciation and gratitude. It’s rather subtle, but then as powerful as the distinction between Phase 1 and Phase 2 is, it too is rather subtle. Let’s see what the dictionary definitions tell us:

grat·i·tude n
a feeling of being thankful to somebody for doing something

ap·pre·ci·a·tion n
1.    a feeling or expression of gratitude
2.    a favorable opinion of something
3.    recognition and liking of something’s qualities
4.    a full understanding of the meaning and importance of something
5.    an increase in value, especially over time

So gratitude is defined as feeling thankful for something, for somebody doing something. And appreciation is defined as a full understanding of the meaning and importance of something, or an increase in value over time.

The distinction I get is that gratitude suggests a passive “power outside,” while appreciation is an active inside job.

And that’s why Robert calls “Appreciation” one of the two major, major tools in Busting Loose. Appreciation of everything and everyone as your Expanded Self’s perfect creation perfectly supporting your growth and expansion into Phase 2 of your totally unique, individual Human Game.

I’d appreciate learning of your thoughts in a comment.