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Cool notes from “Committed” by Elizabeth Gilbert

Saturday, September 11th, 2010

These are my notes from Elizabeth Gilbert’s new book, Committed.  Gilbert is the gal that wrote Eat, Pray, Love.

Click here to watch her 2009 TED talk – It’s a very cool talk – and here are my notes on Committed

Committed, Elizabeth Gilbert, 2010 (author of Eat, Pray, Love)
Highlights from my personal notes:

  • • We cannot choose everything simultaneously


  • • More than one of anything brings the automatic possibility of uncertainty and confusion


  • • Choice –» personal freedom –» emotional uncertainty, second guessing and regrets … use the Process and Appreciation tools


  • • Give yourself some time off to deal with your perplexities


  • • I will write this, do this, for a finite and limited number of receivers: my tribe


  • • If a fish and a bird fall in love, where will they sleep?


  • • Failing, becoming an expert in failure, can be a very good thing if:


  • •  It does not stop you, and


  • •  If you find or take something of value from it, e.g., what caused the failure, what were the factors


  • • “Failure” is an interesting opportunity for personal or professional growth


  • • There are any number of other players with whom  you can do whatever you wish in joy, adventure and fun


  • • All men and all women are mostly the same, most of the time


  • • “Plant an expectation; reap a disappointment.”  In other words, THIS IS IT! Stop lying about it …  to yourself or others.


  • • Anything becomes “hard work” and, ultimately, unrewarding, when the expectation that only an achieved result will bring any kind of enduring satisfaction or fulfillment or enlightenment.


  • • Family grows into clan grows into tribe (150±) grows into kingdom grows into dynasty grows into nation-state


  • • By unnerving definition, anything the heart (Expanded Self) has chosen for its own mysterious reason(s) it can always un-choose later – again, for its own mysterious reason(s)


  • • Have, engender, embody a humility, a respect for forces that are bigger than me/you/us – something even approaching awe (p.85) (Expanded Self?)


  • • It is supportive to learn and to know where you end and someone else begins


  • • Of “simpler times” and nostalgia: what time has ever been a “simple time” for those who were living it?


  • • Insight and reminder of how goofy my mind chatter can be … no … usually is; how it freezes, paralyzes me in story and analysis; how it resists, how unwilling it it is to give up anything in the face of, for the sake of change.


“I came to travel”

Wednesday, September 1st, 2010

Busting Loose clues just keep showing up everywhere!

Been reading Down the Santa Fe Train and into Mexico written by nineteen year old gal who traveled for 15 months in 1846-47 from Independence, MO through Santa Fe, El Paso, Chihuahua to Matamoras during the Mexican American War. She was the brand new young wife of a veteran Santa Fe trader and kept a journal of her observations and experiences – just amazing insights into the conditions, cultures, customs and lifestyles in New Mexico and Mexico 150 years ago.

Now for Busting Loose part … on page 228 her wagon train is traveling over very rough Mexico roads with an eye out for both Mexican soldiers and indians and has this to say: “Our travels now are made altogether after night on account of the heat. Though it is not very agreeable to me, as my head and stomach are somewhat delicate of late. I came to travel and therefore take it patiently, as a custom of the road.”

A pretty darned good Phase 2 living reactively observation, don’t you think?

Busting Loose thoughts today

Tuesday, August 24th, 2010

Had a couple of Busting Loose thoughts … and thought I’d share them.

1.  What if I am walking around, sitting, standing in a “Now Moment Bubble”? This Now-Moment-Bubble expands or contracts based on my awareness – maybe it’s just me and my chair and my iMac screen as I type this – and then it can expand to include my life-partner relationship, or to my blood relationships, or to my relationship with the Oort cloud at the edge of the Universe. And I roll that sucker along with me wherever I go, creating my awarenesses and perceptions (oh yes, and my judgments, too). So in that metaphor, I-me am creating and becoming aware of my creations as I roll along. Small and focused. Larger and more inclusive. Huge and Cosmic. And I’m making it all up just for my fun of it.

2.  Other thought going along with that would be, “every other individual I create in my Now-Moment-Bubble is really me in disguise, acting, behaving and saying what I would say to myself if I could but do that from an objective viewpoint.”

Interesting. Ya’ gotta appreciate the possible implications of the possibility that could possibly be what’s really going on.

Busting Loose according to Twyla Tharpe in The Creative Habit

Tuesday, August 3rd, 2010

There’s a sentence on page 47 of Twyla Tharpe’s neat book, The Creative Habit, that I got as being very Busting Loose.

“Our ability to grow is directly proportional to an ability to entertain the uncomfortable.”

She just doesn’t describe The Process as a ‘what to do’ with the discomfort like Robert Scheinfeld does, but in reading her book, you really get the power of living reactively in a Phase 2 orientation.

One-ness and your mind

Saturday, March 27th, 2010

One-ness and your mind

One-ness. The concept and quality of one-ness.

One way to approach the concept is through observing that YOU are ONE person with ONE mind and heart and ONE set of eyes, ears, arms and legs. And that you are part of your ONE blood family that has ONE genealogical lineage that spreads backwards in time. And that your lineage is part of ONE whole population of the planet with myriad lineages. And that you do live on just ONE planet, in your ONE solar system in your ONE galaxy in your ONE universe and in your One cosmos which some are saying really contains all of your parallel universes as well.

In a very real and observable sense, then, you are indeed ONE. It all just depends on where you are choosing to stand and what you are choosing to observe there. And no matter where you choose to stand and observe in any moment, you are also standing within all the other ONE-nesses at the same time … at all times. And that thought is the one that can most boggle one’s mind, isn’t it.

But then, whatever you are holding in your one mind, you are holding in your mind. After all, whose else’s mind is it? And even if you feel like arguing that it’s your mind that’s holding it for some spiteful and not understood reason, and not YOU … well, it’s still YOUR mind, isn’t it.

So it could be supportive to notice periodically what you are holding in your mind; what you are telling yourself about what you (think you) are observing. And it might be further supportive to notice that whatever you (or your mind) resists, actually causes that to persist. And the greater the resistance, the greater the persistence.

Another clever way to say that could be: it most likely supportive to notice which thoughts you are having … and which thoughts are having you.

Something profound?

Tuesday, February 9th, 2010

Something profound possibly?

I wonder if I can do 300 words on something profound.

Like, I woke up this morning hearing Monty Python’s Galaxy Song in my mind. “Just remember that you’re standing on a planet that’s evolving, and revolving at 900 miles per hour. And orbiting at 90 miles per second so I recon, the Sun that is the source of all our power.”

And in a Busting Loose context, that was very supportive as to the illusion I live within. And I dimly get the power that it takes to just produce and sustain THAT set of circumstances. And then, in a Busting Loose sense, that what if it really is a hologram at Plank Scale, giving it such seductive touch-ability, smell-ability, see-ability, that – if I am seeing and experiencing it I must be creating it!

I mean, the “I” that is the Player self that is joined-at-the-hip, or conjoined in consciousness with Expanded Self. Conjoined. Too much! I mean, really! CON-joined; joined in grand CON experience called The Human Game. “Conned” into believing we aren’t really creating this whole thing, that “it” is somehow “real.” “Real-er,” more real than ourselves. That “it” is happening TO us rather than THROUGH us.

It’s much more convenient to believe that this all is happening TO us than THROUGH us.  Is convenient the word I’m searching for here? It’s certainly convenient to The Human Game illusion of convincing myself that I’m the opposite of who I really am: infinite, eternal, unlimited. The dual pattern/belief of being-at-the-effect-of something outside myself, not myself, and the hard-to-describe unseperatable relationship (con-joined relationship) with an infinitely powerful, eternal, Expanded Self “driving the bus” at all times. joyfully! Peacefully! In full and complete freedom! In exploration of itself through the Player me in a full-immersion 3-D movie called “The Life And Experiences Of Tom Miles.”

Just the can’t-failed-ness of that image is juicy beyond words.

So … how will Player Tom listen for Expanded Self Inspiration? I almost said “today,” but than realized that there really is no “today.” Just the experience of sequential moments of ever-fleeting “now” in eternity and infinity.

And Infinite is infinite. Cool!

“Adventure” and Busting Loose

Friday, August 21st, 2009

The word ‘adventure’ struck me the other day as being a decent description of the Busting Loose nature of the Phase 2 Journey within The Human Game. So, being a word lover, I looked it up in the dictionary, and here’s what it had to say:

Ad•ven•ture  n (italics added)
1.    an exciting or  extraordinary event or series of events
2.    an undertaking involving  uncertainty and  risk (I first typed frisk, an interesting linguistic slip of some sort, no doubt)
3.    the participation or willingness to participate in things that involve uncertainty and risk
4.    a risky or speculative financial undertaking

And the verb form: to dare to go somewhere new or engage in something dangerous.

Now, I don’t know about you, but as Busting Loose From The Money Game pointed out, a fair amount of my life had been about telling myself that I loved adventure, but thought that I also needed to avoid uncertainty and risk. At least, what I labeled unnecessary uncertainty and risk.

And then I read that Robert pointed out that risk avoidance is what Expanded Self uses in Phase 1 to convince me that I am limited and restricted, the opposite of who and what I truly am: infinite, eternal, limitless, and don’t go there! How cool is that! To have a word like adventure that gently and seductively masks uncertainty and risk and extraordinary and so easily gives us the sense that adventure is just a light frolic. No need to go deep here. That could be dangerous and should be avoided because … who knows what might happen?

In short, when I looked at the dictionary definition of adventure, I got a couple of interesting things. For Phase 1 to work at all, the fear and avoidance of risk and uncertainty was necessary to keep me from getting really clear on the power that I am as Player in my hologame. And that adventure/risk/uncertainty was equally necessary for Phase 2 to be kept interesting and challenging. And that really, Expanded Self is handling everything magnificently.

So that leaves me with Robert’s invitation and challenge to jump through the portal into Phase 2 and just use the tools – use the tools – use the tools, fully experience my experiences and tell the truth, that in all the surprises I am having great fun and being royally entertained with/in my holographic Human Game – adventure!

September Emotions Game Busting Loose Workshop

Thursday, August 13th, 2009

Busting Loose From The Emotions Game Workshop begins Monday evening September 7th from 6:30 PM to 8:30 PM at our home.

Slight change in expression of appreciation – first session is FREE so you can come “kick the illusion’s tires” and get a feeling if this is for you or no. Remaining sessions, and there are 18 in all, will be $15 per session.

Why do this, or any, Busting Loose workshop?

Robert’s body of work, model and tools are just very cool stuff. Since Spring 2007, we’ve hosted 4-5 Money Game and Emotions Game workshops touching just under 100 Players. The nearly 100% feedback we’re getting is:

•  thanks for making these DVDs available to watch and discuss

•  thanks for facilitating and creating a safe space to play and explore in

•  the tools have changed and continue to change the richness of my experience of The Human Game

•  stuff that used to really twist my nickers I now use to reclaim power

•  stuff that used to really twist my nickers somehow just doesn’t do that anymore

•  I find myself focusing and pursuing more of what floats my boat, what inspires me, what is more fun to me

•  it’s really supportive to have a place to be with other Phase 2 Players sharing a similar journey and talking the same language

•  where other spiritual and self help stuff seemed like everyone else was ‘getting it’ and somehow I just wasn’t, this stuff just seems to work

•  it’s very cool to ‘get’ why in Phase 1 that just has to be so perfectly and crazy-makingly so

My experience after two years facilitating the Busting Loose work is that infinite really is becoming infinite.To my personal amazement and amusement I ALWAYS pick up new and supportive insights from watching the DVDs (again and again and …) and from creating workshop Players who say the most amazing and supportive things.

Pat and I marvel at our breakthroughs and cookies and still grumble through some of the eggs – well, OK, maybe through most of the eggs. But there’s always a sense of expansion and often a sense of Expanded Self steering that comes with it or right after it, and that’s just plain different.

So, here is your invitation to come and play and learn how to keep more focus on playing in your hologram with fewer and fewer limitations and restrictions.

Hey, there’s only one of us here anyway; it’s all just you talking to you through the other Players you are creating in your hologram through these workshops. I mean really, who you gonna listen to?

The workshop begins Monday, September 7th from 6 to 8 PM . First one is the FREE exploration experience, and then we begin dancing down the Busting Loose From The Emotions Game road together.

REQUEST: Please reply by email  [tmiles21@comcast.net] or call me on cell 350-8447 to let us know how many seats we’ll need – and if we’ll need to open up a second evening for overflow.

Busters Tom and Pat

“Other People Are …”

Wednesday, August 5th, 2009

tomsausalito1You create other people/players to interact directly with to serve 3 purposes:

  • Reflect Something You Think Or Feel About Yourself – or reflect back to you progress or status in some area(s) of your Human Game experience.
  • Give You The Gift Of Information Or Insight – something you would blow off if it comes to you in the shower, but you could hear if it comes from  “someone/someplace outside of you.”
  • Set Something Into Motion To Support You – could be something you will “like” in which case you can sort of go to sleep and not make any connection (“It just came out of the blue”), or you can make the connection in Phase 1 terms (“Jeez. ‘They’ did this. I didn’t. I don’t deserve it; I didn’t work for it”), or it could be something you DON’T like. In the last two cases, you create “them” giving you a gift of discomfort so you can apply The Process and reclaim some power.

And “other people” are all actors in your 3D, full-immersion, holographic movie. You create them. You hand them their scripts. They do exactly what you ask them to do – and have it look like it’s coming from somewhere “outside” so you can believe you are limited or restricted.

Phase 1 “power outside” is cool. Phase 1 “power outside” looks like it’s real and works. It’s just that you can now know (I love how those two words go together: now know; know now) that you are doing it all – and it’s always just you talking to you in one of these three supportive ways.

Very cool!

Wisdom from Bagger Vance

Tuesday, July 14th, 2009

“Inside each and every one of us is our one true, authentic swing.

Something we was born with.

Something that’s ours and ours alone.

Something that can’t be learned.

Something that’s got to be REMEMBERED.”

Bagger Vance