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Cool notes from “Committed” by Elizabeth Gilbert

Saturday, September 11th, 2010

These are my notes from Elizabeth Gilbert’s new book, Committed.  Gilbert is the gal that wrote Eat, Pray, Love.

Click here to watch her 2009 TED talk – It’s a very cool talk – and here are my notes on Committed

Committed, Elizabeth Gilbert, 2010 (author of Eat, Pray, Love)
Highlights from my personal notes:

  • • We cannot choose everything simultaneously


  • • More than one of anything brings the automatic possibility of uncertainty and confusion


  • • Choice –» personal freedom –» emotional uncertainty, second guessing and regrets … use the Process and Appreciation tools


  • • Give yourself some time off to deal with your perplexities


  • • I will write this, do this, for a finite and limited number of receivers: my tribe


  • • If a fish and a bird fall in love, where will they sleep?


  • • Failing, becoming an expert in failure, can be a very good thing if:


  • •  It does not stop you, and


  • •  If you find or take something of value from it, e.g., what caused the failure, what were the factors


  • • “Failure” is an interesting opportunity for personal or professional growth


  • • There are any number of other players with whom  you can do whatever you wish in joy, adventure and fun


  • • All men and all women are mostly the same, most of the time


  • • “Plant an expectation; reap a disappointment.”  In other words, THIS IS IT! Stop lying about it …  to yourself or others.


  • • Anything becomes “hard work” and, ultimately, unrewarding, when the expectation that only an achieved result will bring any kind of enduring satisfaction or fulfillment or enlightenment.


  • • Family grows into clan grows into tribe (150±) grows into kingdom grows into dynasty grows into nation-state


  • • By unnerving definition, anything the heart (Expanded Self) has chosen for its own mysterious reason(s) it can always un-choose later – again, for its own mysterious reason(s)


  • • Have, engender, embody a humility, a respect for forces that are bigger than me/you/us – something even approaching awe (p.85) (Expanded Self?)


  • • It is supportive to learn and to know where you end and someone else begins


  • • Of “simpler times” and nostalgia: what time has ever been a “simple time” for those who were living it?


  • • Insight and reminder of how goofy my mind chatter can be … no … usually is; how it freezes, paralyzes me in story and analysis; how it resists, how unwilling it it is to give up anything in the face of, for the sake of change.


“I came to travel”

Wednesday, September 1st, 2010

Busting Loose clues just keep showing up everywhere!

Been reading Down the Santa Fe Train and into Mexico written by nineteen year old gal who traveled for 15 months in 1846-47 from Independence, MO through Santa Fe, El Paso, Chihuahua to Matamoras during the Mexican American War. She was the brand new young wife of a veteran Santa Fe trader and kept a journal of her observations and experiences – just amazing insights into the conditions, cultures, customs and lifestyles in New Mexico and Mexico 150 years ago.

Now for Busting Loose part … on page 228 her wagon train is traveling over very rough Mexico roads with an eye out for both Mexican soldiers and indians and has this to say: “Our travels now are made altogether after night on account of the heat. Though it is not very agreeable to me, as my head and stomach are somewhat delicate of late. I came to travel and therefore take it patiently, as a custom of the road.”

A pretty darned good Phase 2 living reactively observation, don’t you think?

Busting Loose thoughts today

Tuesday, August 24th, 2010

Had a couple of Busting Loose thoughts … and thought I’d share them.

1.  What if I am walking around, sitting, standing in a “Now Moment Bubble”? This Now-Moment-Bubble expands or contracts based on my awareness – maybe it’s just me and my chair and my iMac screen as I type this – and then it can expand to include my life-partner relationship, or to my blood relationships, or to my relationship with the Oort cloud at the edge of the Universe. And I roll that sucker along with me wherever I go, creating my awarenesses and perceptions (oh yes, and my judgments, too). So in that metaphor, I-me am creating and becoming aware of my creations as I roll along. Small and focused. Larger and more inclusive. Huge and Cosmic. And I’m making it all up just for my fun of it.

2.  Other thought going along with that would be, “every other individual I create in my Now-Moment-Bubble is really me in disguise, acting, behaving and saying what I would say to myself if I could but do that from an objective viewpoint.”

Interesting. Ya’ gotta appreciate the possible implications of the possibility that could possibly be what’s really going on.

Monday the 9th and Wednesday the 11th support

Wednesday, August 4th, 2010
Dear Busters,
We’re on again Monday and Wednesday from 6:30 to 8:30 for the summer 2010 Busting Loose conversation continuation.
Topics will be – So, what are other people in my hologram? What
were those 7 Key Points? And review of the 4 tools of The
Process … or whatever would be most supportive to the gathered
minions in the moment.
Other people, as you may recall, serve three supportive purposes
in your hologram:
1.  They reflect back to you something you think or believe about
yourself.
2.  They provide you with information or data.
3.  They set something in motion
One or more, or all three of the above when you directly
interact with “another person” who is really just you in disguise.
All of the other persons in the hologram are just extras to make
the scene work, feel right, be believable.
Happy August!
Busters Tom and Pat

Busting Loose according to Twyla Tharpe in The Creative Habit

Tuesday, August 3rd, 2010

There’s a sentence on page 47 of Twyla Tharpe’s neat book, The Creative Habit, that I got as being very Busting Loose.

“Our ability to grow is directly proportional to an ability to entertain the uncomfortable.”

She just doesn’t describe The Process as a ‘what to do’ with the discomfort like Robert Scheinfeld does, but in reading her book, you really get the power of living reactively in a Phase 2 orientation.

One-ness and your mind

Saturday, March 27th, 2010

One-ness and your mind

One-ness. The concept and quality of one-ness.

One way to approach the concept is through observing that YOU are ONE person with ONE mind and heart and ONE set of eyes, ears, arms and legs. And that you are part of your ONE blood family that has ONE genealogical lineage that spreads backwards in time. And that your lineage is part of ONE whole population of the planet with myriad lineages. And that you do live on just ONE planet, in your ONE solar system in your ONE galaxy in your ONE universe and in your One cosmos which some are saying really contains all of your parallel universes as well.

In a very real and observable sense, then, you are indeed ONE. It all just depends on where you are choosing to stand and what you are choosing to observe there. And no matter where you choose to stand and observe in any moment, you are also standing within all the other ONE-nesses at the same time … at all times. And that thought is the one that can most boggle one’s mind, isn’t it.

But then, whatever you are holding in your one mind, you are holding in your mind. After all, whose else’s mind is it? And even if you feel like arguing that it’s your mind that’s holding it for some spiteful and not understood reason, and not YOU … well, it’s still YOUR mind, isn’t it.

So it could be supportive to notice periodically what you are holding in your mind; what you are telling yourself about what you (think you) are observing. And it might be further supportive to notice that whatever you (or your mind) resists, actually causes that to persist. And the greater the resistance, the greater the persistence.

Another clever way to say that could be: it most likely supportive to notice which thoughts you are having … and which thoughts are having you.

Something profound?

Tuesday, February 9th, 2010

Something profound possibly?

I wonder if I can do 300 words on something profound.

Like, I woke up this morning hearing Monty Python’s Galaxy Song in my mind. “Just remember that you’re standing on a planet that’s evolving, and revolving at 900 miles per hour. And orbiting at 90 miles per second so I recon, the Sun that is the source of all our power.”

And in a Busting Loose context, that was very supportive as to the illusion I live within. And I dimly get the power that it takes to just produce and sustain THAT set of circumstances. And then, in a Busting Loose sense, that what if it really is a hologram at Plank Scale, giving it such seductive touch-ability, smell-ability, see-ability, that – if I am seeing and experiencing it I must be creating it!

I mean, the “I” that is the Player self that is joined-at-the-hip, or conjoined in consciousness with Expanded Self. Conjoined. Too much! I mean, really! CON-joined; joined in grand CON experience called The Human Game. “Conned” into believing we aren’t really creating this whole thing, that “it” is somehow “real.” “Real-er,” more real than ourselves. That “it” is happening TO us rather than THROUGH us.

It’s much more convenient to believe that this all is happening TO us than THROUGH us.  Is convenient the word I’m searching for here? It’s certainly convenient to The Human Game illusion of convincing myself that I’m the opposite of who I really am: infinite, eternal, unlimited. The dual pattern/belief of being-at-the-effect-of something outside myself, not myself, and the hard-to-describe unseperatable relationship (con-joined relationship) with an infinitely powerful, eternal, Expanded Self “driving the bus” at all times. joyfully! Peacefully! In full and complete freedom! In exploration of itself through the Player me in a full-immersion 3-D movie called “The Life And Experiences Of Tom Miles.”

Just the can’t-failed-ness of that image is juicy beyond words.

So … how will Player Tom listen for Expanded Self Inspiration? I almost said “today,” but than realized that there really is no “today.” Just the experience of sequential moments of ever-fleeting “now” in eternity and infinity.

And Infinite is infinite. Cool!

Illusion – Quote by David Bohm

Thursday, January 7th, 2010

I thought this short quote by David Bohm on illusion might be supportive in Busting Loose:

“In the long run, it is far more dangerous to adhere to illusion than to face what the actual fact is.”

What do you think?

Appreciation … or … Gratitude

Friday, September 11th, 2009

Busting Loose – Appreciation or Gratitude?

I’m not sure Robert mentions the distinction between appreciation and gratitude. It’s rather subtle, but then as powerful as the distinction between Phase 1 and Phase 2 is, it too is rather subtle. Let’s see what the dictionary definitions tell us:

grat·i·tude n
a feeling of being thankful to somebody for doing something

ap·pre·ci·a·tion n
1.    a feeling or expression of gratitude
2.    a favorable opinion of something
3.    recognition and liking of something’s qualities
4.    a full understanding of the meaning and importance of something
5.    an increase in value, especially over time

So gratitude is defined as feeling thankful for something, for somebody doing something. And appreciation is defined as a full understanding of the meaning and importance of something, or an increase in value over time.

The distinction I get is that gratitude suggests a passive “power outside,” while appreciation is an active inside job.

And that’s why Robert calls “Appreciation” one of the two major, major tools in Busting Loose. Appreciation of everything and everyone as your Expanded Self’s perfect creation perfectly supporting your growth and expansion into Phase 2 of your totally unique, individual Human Game.

I’d appreciate learning of your thoughts in a comment.

“What do you want to be when you grow up?”

Tuesday, September 1st, 2009

Busting Loose question: “What do you want to be when you grow up?”

I was thinking to myself while walking on the trail one morning about Busting Loose. Just how is it that I somehow create a unique holographic experience in my unique personal Human Game. and how living more into Phase 2 might look and feel?

The following thought popped into my holographic head.

I remember growing up and being asked by relatives and family friends, “And what do YOU want to be when YOU grow up, little boy?” And I even remember asking others folks’ kids that same question. And at one point I even harbored the idea that I was doing them some kind of a favor by helping them focus their thinking on how they were “going to turn out” and what they were going to do with their life. Big favor. R-i-i-i-g-h-t.

And then another thought popped up in direct response: “Wait…..that’s not a supportive question for Busting Loose and living into Phase 2.”

A “right,” or “right-er” question would be, “So … what is it that you just love doing/exploring right now, and how do you allow yourself to do/explore more of that until something else strikes your fancy?”

Seems to me like that’s what living reactively in the moment, from and into inspiration would look and feel like.

And then I “just happened” to create Susan from our first workshop on the trail (coincidence, wink, wink, nudge, nudge) and I had her start this great mutual conversation about how certain things are “working” and “not working,” and if I do The Process on a discomfort and then just leave it alone, is that what I really want? Is that what I’m really supposed to be doing? Even if the thing that is not working, could be improved, and seems like it should be “important” to me – and maybe to “others,” completely forgetting that all those “others” are just reflections of me.

Is it OK to just do The Process and reclaim the power and then just let go? Even if nothing in the hologram is real and it’s completely made up by me – My Consciousness – My Expanded Self?

And the answer that came into my holographic awareness was, “I think that after doing The Process and reclaiming whatever power you can in a given pass, if it’s something you then feel would be fun or exciting, then that would be one “to do.” And if  your “doing” pushes back, it’s only pushing back because that’s the way you want(ed) that particular game or inning or quarter to play out. And maybe it then becomes “Challenging,” “Worthwhile,” “Productive,” “Satisfying” as I remind myself that I (Consciousness, Expanded Self) just made it all up anyway through patterns in The Field.

And any discomfort experienced in any pushing back is “just an Egg” with Power in it saying, “Here’s more of your Power for you to reclaim if you want to in this moment.” And you can then use this new, additionally reclaimed Power to stay on this particular ride a little longer, and/or noticing a next or different ride you feel “inspired” to experience or explore. Hot damn! Busting Loose!