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Cool notes from “Committed” by Elizabeth Gilbert

Saturday, September 11th, 2010

These are my notes from Elizabeth Gilbert’s new book, Committed.  Gilbert is the gal that wrote Eat, Pray, Love.

Click here to watch her 2009 TED talk – It’s a very cool talk – and here are my notes on Committed

Committed, Elizabeth Gilbert, 2010 (author of Eat, Pray, Love)
Highlights from my personal notes:

  • • We cannot choose everything simultaneously


  • • More than one of anything brings the automatic possibility of uncertainty and confusion


  • • Choice –» personal freedom –» emotional uncertainty, second guessing and regrets … use the Process and Appreciation tools


  • • Give yourself some time off to deal with your perplexities


  • • I will write this, do this, for a finite and limited number of receivers: my tribe


  • • If a fish and a bird fall in love, where will they sleep?


  • • Failing, becoming an expert in failure, can be a very good thing if:


  • •  It does not stop you, and


  • •  If you find or take something of value from it, e.g., what caused the failure, what were the factors


  • • “Failure” is an interesting opportunity for personal or professional growth


  • • There are any number of other players with whom  you can do whatever you wish in joy, adventure and fun


  • • All men and all women are mostly the same, most of the time


  • • “Plant an expectation; reap a disappointment.”  In other words, THIS IS IT! Stop lying about it …  to yourself or others.


  • • Anything becomes “hard work” and, ultimately, unrewarding, when the expectation that only an achieved result will bring any kind of enduring satisfaction or fulfillment or enlightenment.


  • • Family grows into clan grows into tribe (150±) grows into kingdom grows into dynasty grows into nation-state


  • • By unnerving definition, anything the heart (Expanded Self) has chosen for its own mysterious reason(s) it can always un-choose later – again, for its own mysterious reason(s)


  • • Have, engender, embody a humility, a respect for forces that are bigger than me/you/us – something even approaching awe (p.85) (Expanded Self?)


  • • It is supportive to learn and to know where you end and someone else begins


  • • Of “simpler times” and nostalgia: what time has ever been a “simple time” for those who were living it?


  • • Insight and reminder of how goofy my mind chatter can be … no … usually is; how it freezes, paralyzes me in story and analysis; how it resists, how unwilling it it is to give up anything in the face of, for the sake of change.


“I came to travel”

Wednesday, September 1st, 2010

Busting Loose clues just keep showing up everywhere!

Been reading Down the Santa Fe Train and into Mexico written by nineteen year old gal who traveled for 15 months in 1846-47 from Independence, MO through Santa Fe, El Paso, Chihuahua to Matamoras during the Mexican American War. She was the brand new young wife of a veteran Santa Fe trader and kept a journal of her observations and experiences – just amazing insights into the conditions, cultures, customs and lifestyles in New Mexico and Mexico 150 years ago.

Now for Busting Loose part … on page 228 her wagon train is traveling over very rough Mexico roads with an eye out for both Mexican soldiers and indians and has this to say: “Our travels now are made altogether after night on account of the heat. Though it is not very agreeable to me, as my head and stomach are somewhat delicate of late. I came to travel and therefore take it patiently, as a custom of the road.”

A pretty darned good Phase 2 living reactively observation, don’t you think?

Busting Loose thoughts today

Tuesday, August 24th, 2010

Had a couple of Busting Loose thoughts … and thought I’d share them.

1.  What if I am walking around, sitting, standing in a “Now Moment Bubble”? This Now-Moment-Bubble expands or contracts based on my awareness – maybe it’s just me and my chair and my iMac screen as I type this – and then it can expand to include my life-partner relationship, or to my blood relationships, or to my relationship with the Oort cloud at the edge of the Universe. And I roll that sucker along with me wherever I go, creating my awarenesses and perceptions (oh yes, and my judgments, too). So in that metaphor, I-me am creating and becoming aware of my creations as I roll along. Small and focused. Larger and more inclusive. Huge and Cosmic. And I’m making it all up just for my fun of it.

2.  Other thought going along with that would be, “every other individual I create in my Now-Moment-Bubble is really me in disguise, acting, behaving and saying what I would say to myself if I could but do that from an objective viewpoint.”

Interesting. Ya’ gotta appreciate the possible implications of the possibility that could possibly be what’s really going on.

Monday the 9th and Wednesday the 11th support

Wednesday, August 4th, 2010
Dear Busters,
We’re on again Monday and Wednesday from 6:30 to 8:30 for the summer 2010 Busting Loose conversation continuation.
Topics will be – So, what are other people in my hologram? What
were those 7 Key Points? And review of the 4 tools of The
Process … or whatever would be most supportive to the gathered
minions in the moment.
Other people, as you may recall, serve three supportive purposes
in your hologram:
1.  They reflect back to you something you think or believe about
yourself.
2.  They provide you with information or data.
3.  They set something in motion
One or more, or all three of the above when you directly
interact with “another person” who is really just you in disguise.
All of the other persons in the hologram are just extras to make
the scene work, feel right, be believable.
Happy August!
Busters Tom and Pat

Something profound?

Tuesday, February 9th, 2010

Something profound possibly?

I wonder if I can do 300 words on something profound.

Like, I woke up this morning hearing Monty Python’s Galaxy Song in my mind. “Just remember that you’re standing on a planet that’s evolving, and revolving at 900 miles per hour. And orbiting at 90 miles per second so I recon, the Sun that is the source of all our power.”

And in a Busting Loose context, that was very supportive as to the illusion I live within. And I dimly get the power that it takes to just produce and sustain THAT set of circumstances. And then, in a Busting Loose sense, that what if it really is a hologram at Plank Scale, giving it such seductive touch-ability, smell-ability, see-ability, that – if I am seeing and experiencing it I must be creating it!

I mean, the “I” that is the Player self that is joined-at-the-hip, or conjoined in consciousness with Expanded Self. Conjoined. Too much! I mean, really! CON-joined; joined in grand CON experience called The Human Game. “Conned” into believing we aren’t really creating this whole thing, that “it” is somehow “real.” “Real-er,” more real than ourselves. That “it” is happening TO us rather than THROUGH us.

It’s much more convenient to believe that this all is happening TO us than THROUGH us.  Is convenient the word I’m searching for here? It’s certainly convenient to The Human Game illusion of convincing myself that I’m the opposite of who I really am: infinite, eternal, unlimited. The dual pattern/belief of being-at-the-effect-of something outside myself, not myself, and the hard-to-describe unseperatable relationship (con-joined relationship) with an infinitely powerful, eternal, Expanded Self “driving the bus” at all times. joyfully! Peacefully! In full and complete freedom! In exploration of itself through the Player me in a full-immersion 3-D movie called “The Life And Experiences Of Tom Miles.”

Just the can’t-failed-ness of that image is juicy beyond words.

So … how will Player Tom listen for Expanded Self Inspiration? I almost said “today,” but than realized that there really is no “today.” Just the experience of sequential moments of ever-fleeting “now” in eternity and infinity.

And Infinite is infinite. Cool!

Busting Loose: Passion, Inspiration And Gentle Nudges

Tuesday, October 20th, 2009

In Busting Loose, Robert talks about after reclaiming *enough* power, moving deeper into Phase 2, and then living in ‘reactive mode’ — acting only on inspiration.

Many, MANY years ago my Al-Anon sponsor said, “You know, Tom, I discovered in working the program that I’ve always wanted my Higher Power (Al-Anon speak for Expanded Self) to talk to me in burning bushes, but It/He/She always just seems use gentle nudges.” He went on to say that this was often a frustration because gentle nudges were too darned easy to ignore, pooh-pooh, or miss all together.

I notice that for some 50 years I’ve been practicing that very Phase 1 conversation. It goes something like, “I know this inspiration  s-e-e-m-s  interesting and exciting … but what if it’s just a passing fancy; what if it’s not really ‘the one;’ it surely doesn’t seem all that important or that would make any difference.” Discomfort. Do The Process!

So … many years later and close to three years of facilitating Busting Loose workshops – doing the process – reclaiming power, it feels like my inspiration illusion still is just out of arms reach in my Human Game illusion. But it also feels like the Phase 1 cloud cover on that one is getting close to being drilled through. Why do I think that?

Because I’m noticing I’m creating a lot of other players / conversations mirroring that back to me, remembering that that I script  other players in my hologram do three things: (1) reflect back to something I am thinking or feeling about myself, (2) provide information or data, and/or (3) set something in motion – thank you, Robert, for the insight and reminder.

And just this morning (it always happens in the morning), ES just popped this into my hologram via the internet, further languaging it very nicely in, “If you think you haven’t found your passion...” by Derek Sivers.

The Readers’ Digest version is, “It’s dangerous to think in terms of  ‘passion’ and ‘purpose’ because they sound like such huge overwhelming things. If you think you haven’t found your passion yet, you’re probably expecting it to be overwhelming. Instead, just notice what excites you and what scares you on a small moment-to-moment level.”

You can read the whole post and a bunch of great comments by clicking on this link. It feels like a real Busting Loose keeper. Your thoughts?

Appreciation … or … Gratitude

Friday, September 11th, 2009

Busting Loose – Appreciation or Gratitude?

I’m not sure Robert mentions the distinction between appreciation and gratitude. It’s rather subtle, but then as powerful as the distinction between Phase 1 and Phase 2 is, it too is rather subtle. Let’s see what the dictionary definitions tell us:

grat·i·tude n
a feeling of being thankful to somebody for doing something

ap·pre·ci·a·tion n
1.    a feeling or expression of gratitude
2.    a favorable opinion of something
3.    recognition and liking of something’s qualities
4.    a full understanding of the meaning and importance of something
5.    an increase in value, especially over time

So gratitude is defined as feeling thankful for something, for somebody doing something. And appreciation is defined as a full understanding of the meaning and importance of something, or an increase in value over time.

The distinction I get is that gratitude suggests a passive “power outside,” while appreciation is an active inside job.

And that’s why Robert calls “Appreciation” one of the two major, major tools in Busting Loose. Appreciation of everything and everyone as your Expanded Self’s perfect creation perfectly supporting your growth and expansion into Phase 2 of your totally unique, individual Human Game.

I’d appreciate learning of your thoughts in a comment.